Average dating relationship length
If you are focused on the subject, are you missing issues sitting just on the periphery? On one hand, if either of you are still in college or graduate school and not financially stable it might not be a good idea.
But a 30-something guy in a multi-year relationship with a steady job doesn’t have that same excuse. Maybe he really is just saving up his pennies and has a plan in place.
I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.
However, if you are asking yourself “when is he going to propose already?! You’ve probably picked up on an inequity in he relationship, and one (or more) of your needs is not being met.
And pressing someone for marriage might be brushing over the issues that keep him from proposing in the first place.
Couples who have more conflict in a long courtship often deteriorate faster after marriage, and if you are already fighting or tense because of this issue, it might be best to address it now.
There is actually a lower divorce rate now than in the 80s, and what marriage means on a societal level is also changing.
Read this question as- are you strong enough to leave?